Healing the divorce & separation |Healing emotional bondings

Dealing with your raw emotions is part of healing after divorce. Divorce can be like a tornado. It takes your normal existence, tossing and turning everything in its path, leaving little resemblance of the life you had before. After it has passed, you are left to deal with the emotional baggage, wondering if you will ever feel happy and secure again. Below is an article that can help you learn how to heal after divorce.

Is it possible to heal through your divorce? Is it possible to “come out the other side” more in touch with your passions, hopes and dreams? Can you reconnect with your body and find different ways to enhance your well-being? Can you find joy and laugh often?

This process of divorce is devastating. But, often through the darkness you are forced to go to inner spaces within yourself that teach you of beauty, acceptance and freedom. You desire to reconnect with your inner world and heal.

It is time to ask yourself, do you want to heal through this experience? For each of us, we must define healing in our own terms and with our own understanding. My understanding of healing was that I wanted to go through this divorce and feel all of my emotions. I am convinced that the emotional body is a gift of being human and I did not want to shut down my feelings. I wanted to feel them all, the good, the bad and the ugly. I did not want to be a robot.

Divorce and separation have all kinds of legal, financial and emotional consequences. One aspect of divorce that is not often talked about is the spiritual consequence experienced by the family members. It is safe to say that for many, divorce is a legal dissolution of a religious or a spiritual contract. For many people, raised with strong religious beliefs, the decision to divorce brings up feelings of guilt, shame, and a sense of failure.

Of late, many distinctions are made between religion and spirituality. Generally speaking, spirituality is described as a more personally chosen and an individual experience compared to religion. Religion may or may not be chosen by one, and tends to be a more collective experience that is guided by texts or leaders. While religion and spirituality bring up inner conflicts and question your faith, these beliefs and values can also be helpful in getting through one of the most difficult times in people’s lives.

Let’s understand an aspect of divorce to be the dissolving of the energy bond between you and your spouse. You actually “pull” your energy back into your own body. When you married, you formed a union. When you merged lives, you merged energy.

You merged energetically with your partner. This merging formed a beam of light, an actual beam merging you two. Sharing life together strengthened this beam of light.

Now, you are in the process of energetically dissolving this bond. It is time to put your awareness on your own energy as you call your energy back into your body, back into your own chakra system, back into your heart.

This is the separation that needs to happen, and often, this is a painful process… a long and difficult process.

The good news in the issue of divorce is that there is hope for healing and a way to get through the trauma. But before we can share the good news with the divorced, we must first examine our own hearts.

Before we can help, we must be free of preconditioned ideas that the divorced person did something to make his or her spouse leave. There are too many reasons why a person leaves. People are less willing to tolerate an unsatisfactory marriage than ever before. The ideology of marriage has become increasingly hedonistic, focusing on what brings pleasure rather than faithfulness and commitment. With the availability of pornographic material, there are more and more people who are looking for another high and are finding it outside their own marriage.